Shebella Sandhu
Editorial Writer
Life, even a “successful” one, is a life filled with rejection. We are rejected from some of the colleges we apply to as high school students, as well as some of the universities where we apply to undertake graduate study. When we graduate yet again and seek academic appointments, rejection becomes an ever-present force as never before, so common in fact that the employers rejecting us have pre-prepared form letters, which they often reuse from year to year, made up to deliver the news, sending them out well beyond the day when we have already realized that we didn’t get the job.
Rejection is just an opportunity to grow; as an individual ponder on why we got that rejection, work upon it and end up becoming more efficient than earlier. We may need to take something personally, at least temporarily, in order to shoulder through it. By feeling the pain of rejection, rather than stifling it, we may better prepare ourselves to keep working toward our goals. If we haven’t taken it too personally, and if we, after an appropriate amount of mourning, stop feeling rejected, life and career can continue.
The problem occurs the minute you take rejection personally. People think that when someone rejects for instance their ideas, they think that they are being rejected. You have to see it in other perspective. Never take it personally. That means be rational about dealing rejection. It is not you who is being rejected. It is your idea, behaviour or service that is being rejected.
Rejection teaches you so many things. It makes you realize the things that you really want. It teaches to be stronger. It teaches you to pursue things you are passionate about. In every rejection comes a sense of direction. Do not identify yourself with rejection. No one defines you. You define yourself.
Rejection is just an opportunity to grow as an individual, ponder upon the reasons of that rejection, work on it and end up becoming more of a person than you are.